Binyavanga Wainaina is one of Kenya’s best-known writers. Now he is one of the most prominent figures in Africa to announce that he’s gay.
Wainaina did so on Saturday, his 43rd birthday, in a piece posted on several websites, called, “I Am A Homosexual, Mum.”
The title comes from a conversation he imagined, but did not have, with his mother back in 2000, when she was dying in a Kenyan hospital from complications related to diabetes.
In reality, Wainaina was living in South Africa at the time and did not make it back to Kenya before his mother died. He never told her he was gay.
But in his piece, he writes, “I, Binyavanga Wainaina, quite honestly swear I have known I am a homosexual since I was five.”
He followed that up with a series of YouTube videos, called “We Must Free Our Imaginations,” posted on Tuesday.
His declaration comes at a time when a number of African countries are enacting strict anti-gay laws on a continent that has long discriminated against gays.
Homosexual acts are illegal in Kenya. Uganda and Nigeria recently passed legislation that has been widely criticized by human rights groups. In Nigeria, the president signed the measure into law. In Uganda, President Yoweri Museveni refused to sign the law, citing technical reasons, then went on to call homosexuality an “abnormality.”
Speaking on NPR’s Tell Me More on Thursday, Wainaina said he decided to come out because, “I wanted to generate a conversation among Africans.”
“If you’re ready to share, you are ready to share,” he said. “So I was ready to share.”
In 2011, Wainaina’s father was dying. And as with his mother, Wainaina regretted not telling him about being gay.
“Sometimes I feel like your parents are hostage to you much more than you are hostage to them, and so, the fear of sort of, wounding them, for me, I think, was a big thing,” he said. “But then, this is the opportunity to test their hearts the way I didn’t give myself the opportunity to test their hearts.”
Wainaina also said he contemplated coming out while working on a memoir called One Day I Will Write About This Place (published in the U.S. by Grey Wolf Press). He didn’t do so, but with all the attention focused on the recent laws in Uganda and Nigeria, he felt the time was right.
“While finishing (the book), I’d really kind of contemplated talking about being gay, and then I thought, in that kind of, sort of, writerly way ‘Oh my God, I don’t think my language is ready or lyrical enough to start talking about’ that sort of thing. So I was finding reasons and excuses for a long time, but I think sometimes you’re just ready. So I feel like I kind of did this because there’s a lot going on in Nigeria with the new laws and so on, but really, in a certain way, by the time I was hitting that ‘send’ button to my friends to put it up on platforms, I felt, this is one of the most successfully put together and honest pieces I’ve ever written.”
Asked what he’d say to a young man struggling with his sexuality in Africa, Wainaina said:
“Sending you all the love possible. There’s love in this world. That’s the only thing I can say. Take good care of yourself. Trust yourself. Always live and work with trusted people. And love. And love. We love you very, very much.”