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Like many of my girlfriends in the business, I am a divorced mother of one. I am proud of my daughter, who is healthy and happy, does well in school, isn't involved in anything dangerous -- in short, all a mother could want. My job has allowed me flexibility with my time. I can be there to help with homework. I can take a day off if she's sick, without worrying about using up "sick days."

It is true that our work can be very dangerous. But we look out for one another, and have private websites where we share information about dangerous or abusive clients, and screening techniques to keep safe. 

We also share information about marketing, branding, resources, web design, and more. The modern sex worker is a businesswoman, with a wide variety of skills and abilities. I estimate I spend about 90 percent of my time in front of a computer, and a mere 10 percent entertaining friends.

But I have to be honest and say that sex work can seem fun and glamorous from the outside, when on the inside it can be hard, scary, depressing, and dangerous. It's not a decision to enter into lightly... because it also changes your whole life, for the rest of your life. Permanently. Even after you leave the business, you can never truly leave it behind, for a variety of reasons.

Society is cruel to us. That's the reality. And it's hard sometimes, to hold your head up high, knowing inside that you're doing a good, positive thing, when all around you is judgement, derision, even hatred. So thank you for providing us a forum, at least, to share our truth.

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I'm doing this in two parts, because I talk too much. :)

I am also a sex worker. And I completely relate to what Buffy has to say. I am proud of what I do. (and I pay taxes also - I'm incorporated as a personal companion.)

I am constantly reading, taking workshops, improving my ability to help others. I see my work as a truly positive, even loving, experience. I specialize in Tantra and other forms of Sacred Sexuality, but I am also simply a companion. I am open to all aspects of this work.

I have a college degree, and worked in my field for a time, but I feel happier and more fulfilled doing sex work.

I have learned an amazing appreciation and understanding of men - not just sexually, but personally, culturally. Like Buffy, I truly enoy spending time with my clients, and appreciate them for the remarkable, individual human beings that they are.

I consider myself a feminist, one who's tired of traditional feminists telling me that my vagina is sacred. Yes, it is - but *I* get to decide that, not someone else. They expect women to have the right to choose what to do with their bodies as far as abortion is concerned, but they would deny me the right to choose on a sexual level. In doing so, they play right into the patriarchal paradigm they profess to hate.

The women I've met in this business are truly amazing. So many strong, intelligent, educated women, thoughtful and passionate. We do have a lot of fun together, and as Buffy mentioned, we often do parties and such, do charity drives, look out for each other.

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