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Like many of my girlfriends in the business, I am a divorced mother of one. I am proud of my daughter, who is healthy and happy, does well in school, isn't involved in anything dangerous -- in short, all a mother could want. My job has allowed me flexibility with my time. I can be there to help with homework. I can take a day off if she's sick, without worrying about using up "sick days."
It is true that our work can be very dangerous. But we look out for one another, and have private websites where we share information about dangerous or abusive clients, and screening techniques to keep safe.
We also share information about marketing, branding, resources, web design, and more. The modern sex worker is a businesswoman, with a wide variety of skills and abilities. I estimate I spend about 90 percent of my time in front of a computer, and a mere 10 percent entertaining friends.
But I have to be honest and say that sex work can seem fun and glamorous from the outside, when on the inside it can be hard, scary, depressing, and dangerous. It's not a decision to enter into lightly... because it also changes your whole life, for the rest of your life. Permanently. Even after you leave the business, you can never truly leave it behind, for a variety of reasons.
Society is cruel to us. That's the reality. And it's hard sometimes, to hold your head up high, knowing inside that you're doing a good, positive thing, when all around you is judgement, derision, even hatred. So thank you for providing us a forum, at least, to share our truth.
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