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I made a conscience decision to not have children as a teenager for two reasons. I spent my childhood between two households due to my parents divorcing when I was five. With my Mother I grew up in a mentally and physically abusive home environment. As I got older I realized that I had personality traits similar to my mother and I swore I would never allow myself to inflict those negative traits on my own children. The second lesser reason was because, throughout my life, all I ever heard from my Father and Grandmother was how, if I was smart, I would avoid having children. They obviously felt that their lives would have been better had they made a different choice. I am sure that my experience would have been different had I had children but I never wanted to take that risk. There are too many unwanted, abused kids in the world already.  I was always told that I would regret my decision to not have children but my conviction only gets stronger as I get older. Now at 37 I can't wait for my biological baby clock to stop ticking. At that time people will then switch their comments from "Why? or You will regret" to "Oh, I'm so sorry you missed your opportunity". How little people understand that this is a choice I am very, very happy about. 

posted 2 years, 7 months ago
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