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I believe my mom's hoarding started after she left my father when I was like 6 or 7, I am now 28. I has gotten worse over the years, especially after my grandmother died and she was dianosed with cancer twice in two years. I am now staying with her and I have two kids. I can't live like this and she is angry at the fact I'm trying to clear out the home. She has mail dated back it 1986. Newpapers, magizines. Not including clothes of one of my deceased aunts, plus my grandmothers. I have even found letters I wrote her 10 years ago when I was deployed on a ship, asking for her to send items to me. She admits she hates the way the house looks, but when I start to clean she goes through what I'm throwing away and keeps it and she complains to the family how I been in the home for two weeks and now I want to clean and saying she is going to go through what I threw away and take what she wants out. I don't know how to handle this and I have 5 more months of this. My kids stayed the summer with her and it has rubbed off on them. They just throw clothes and other items in the middle of the floor in any room and leave it. What should I do?

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