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I have very mixed feelings about adoption because of the situation my family has encountered. My younger brother's daughter was given up for adoption a few years ago without his consent and against his wishes in Utah. After a lengthy and expensive round of court battles, he lost and to this day has never even seen a picture of his daughter. Nor has anyone else on the father's side been allowed to be involved with her life. The mother enjoys an open adoption with the adopted family, who were also very aware of my brother's wishes to keep his daughter. I can't help but think there are other scenarios like this one and so have issues with adoption in general. If things like this are allowed to happen, I can never think of it as an "unselfish act", rather it seems to me to be one of the most selfish acts this young women made. I worry about the day my bother's daughter is old enough to realize what happened and how hard my bother fought to have her.

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