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For the DHS employee:
There may be abuses. It is YOUR responsibility to police them. Fix it.
Children do not come into the foster care system because they came from lives full of happiness, light, lollipops and gumdrops. They have emotional and behavioral issues borne of the very circumstances that brought them into the system. It is horrendously callous of you to fail to recognize that fact. As foster parents, we scrape and claw and fight for every single benefit we can get for the children in our care -- we expend no less effort than we did for our own children. They deserve that.
The DHS complains that they cannot get enough people to do foster care and those that start often quit after fewer than two years. I can tell you a few of the many reasons why:
1. Unanswered voicemails & emails.
2. Caseworkers who don't ever show up to our home to check on the children.
3. Information that is incomplete, that comes too late or does not come at all.
4. Paperwork that needs to be signed before the children go to medical appointments but is not, so the appointment is canceled or delayed.
5. Having to fight with DHS to get any and everything done.
For the person that brought up the fact that the rates are tax free: That might have some bearing if the money were income. It is not. It is for the children, not for us. It is not income. If it were income, we would stop doing this and I would go back to regular employment where I could make a lot more money working 8 instead of 24 hours a day. We are LOSING money in the absence of that second income. It's not "free money" for us. It is not even enough to really raise children in a manner we think they deserve.
We hear so much news about the horrible foster parents who abuse and neglect the children in their care that the public has the perception that all foster parents are the same. We do not hear about the 99.9% of foster parents who sacrifice so much to provide safe, sane and healthy homes for children whose lives have been wrecked by the actions of adults around them.
posted 3 years, 7 months ago
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