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My husband and I thought long a hard about weather or not we wanted children. I don't think a majority of people actually think very hard about having kids. It seems like it just kind of happens. The craziest thing is how so many people put more thought into buying a car or an expensive TV rather than having a child. My friends say to me (in looking at baby clothes) "but look how cute. don't you want one?" As if that is the reason to have a child and raise another human being. The other question I get is, "but who is going to take care of you when you are older?" Again, that is not a good reason to have a child. There is no guarantee your child will take care of you when you are older. But there is a good chance you, as a parent, will take care of that child well into their adult life.

When I was in my 20s I thougth I wanted children. But as I started nearing 30 and really enjoyed my "me " time and my "couple time" and basically all time, I stared to wonder if I really wanted kids or did I think I wanted kids b/c that is the "natural" progression of life. One grows up, gets married, and raises a family. But once I reached 30 and actually started to think about all the work involved in raising a human, I began to question if having kids was something I wanted or did society's norms have something to do with that thinking. 

Once I started to question that and really think about if raising a person is something I wanted, I realized I didn't want to take on the commitment. Plus I feel the world is overcrowded already. If I feel the need to help a child I can always adopt or help one that is already in need. I do not feel the overwhelming need to procreate. 

I would have to say most people with kids envy the time my husband and I have. We can travel when we want, sleep when we want, and be alone when we want. I love kids, but other people's are better b/c I can give them back. We have a dog and cat too and we treat them as our babies.

posted 3 years, 7 months ago
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