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Wow, that sounds amazing. How long does it run?
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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I really wish the media would smarten up and find people working in the industry who ENJOY their jobs. It's not hard to do. There are online discussion boards aplenty, especially in Portland. We don't like to be made public (as happened in the old Mercury issue when a certain board was mentioned by name) but for godssakes, register and ask some of the women advertising to get involved in the discussion.
Every provider I know is independent and most are well-adjusted. Sex-positive feminists abound in the sex industry. And why didn't OPB find more LEGAL sex workers, such as pro doms or webcam girls? A straight man dancing for gay men...really? That was the best you could do? In PORTLAND? I was disappointed in the extreme at the tone and content of the sex worker feature.
I'd posted the info on a couple of the adult online discussion boards here in Portland and everyone was SO happy I'd called in. Everyone was SO frustrated at your treatment of the subject. Yes, there are victims trapped in sex work due to addiction and violence issues. Yes, many women want to get out of the industry and need drug treatment. But there is a HUGE number of people happily working in the sex industry of their own free will. We are almost NEVER included in the discussion, which, after I'd heard your scheduled escort didn't show up, is why I called.
Next time, do a little research and cast your net a little wider. Please.
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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on As We Are: Sex Workers
Nothing strange about me discussing my own personal experience. It is what it is. I live my life, you don't
"I don't hear any empathy about their sex addict clients whom they take extreme advantage of, the emotional pain of the sex addict client when reality hits and the dopamine wears off, the clients' suicide attempts, divorce, and breakups of long time realtionships, and the economic disaster of the client and his family"
Hmmm....sounds like you might be projecting a bit? Perhaps it's YOU who had such a hard time...being a client.
I would not continue to see someone who was destroying their life by seeing me. Believe it or not.
Studies, studies, studies....rarely are higher-end escorts included in any of these studies. Which is why I called in today. It sounded like the program was going to, once again, cover sex work by only including one segment of it: street walker, drug dealer, pimped out victim. 'Sex work' is like 'rock and roll'. It covers a lot of territory.
"There is nothing loving or emotionally fulfilling about prositution."
Wrong again. Many, many of my clients have beloved wives who are ill and can not or will not be intimate. I provide what's missing with no threat of the heartache an affair would bring. They would never consider leaving their wives but still need sexual contact. Many of my clients have lost their partners and simply need to connect with someone regularly. Someone who treats them with kindness and....love. Some of my clients are physically unattractive (according to our society's standards) and turn to professionals because they have no other option. Lots of my clients are single men who are very busy with their businesses and have no time to date. Couples see me to add a little spice to their sex life. People see sex workers for a lot of different reasons. Not everyone destroys relationships or themselves when they do.
Stop making blanket statements about things you know only a little bit about, 'anonymous'.
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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And how many people work in jobs they hate because they feel they have no other choice? How many people stay in dead-end jobs for the health insurance?
The adult industry isn't the only industry where people get 'trapped'. It's just one of the few that pays well!
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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on As We Are: Sex Workers
Right on, DelilahBleu! And, yes, always treat housekeeping with the UTMOST respect!! (and empty your own trash and tip very well!)
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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on As We Are: Sex Workers
Thank you, OPB, for allowing the voice of the non-victimized sex worker on your show. It's rare that we are given an opportunity to join in on the conversation.
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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on As We Are: Sex Workers
"In the face of such a picture, focusing on those relatively privileged individuals who claim to enjoy their lives in the sex trade is irresponsible."
And never, ever giving voice to all of us who lead victimless lives as sex workers is also irresponsible.
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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I hope there are other guests on the show today other than the former street walker/pimped prostitute. There are many, many varieties of sex workers. This particular one has been covered ad nauseum.
Please, OPB, interview sex workers who are happy being escorts, dancers, sensual tantrikas, etc. We are many.
*Thank you, David. I really wish I could have been the escort interviewed!! I hope you get some good callers. What's the call in number?
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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on As We Are: Sex Workers
I am a sex worker. I love my job. I am so happy to have this forum where we (sex workers) can come to give our point of view. And I'm happy to see clients of sex workers posting as well.
Not every prostitute is underaged, pimped or strung out on drugs. But you'd never know that from mainstream media's portrayel of the adult industry. Yes, there are those forced in to sex work by either lifestyle choices or pressure from others, but I don't know any of them. All my co-workers are independent providers who freely chose to do sex work.
Some thoughts:
I've never dated someone because they have money. Nobodie's ever paid my rent for me. I work for my money by providing adult companionship and short-term intimacy honestly and with integrity. I don't pretend to like and appreciate my clients. I DO like and appreciate them
I wonder how many women who married for money can say the same?
It's time to decriminalize sex work. Not every sex worker is forced in to the work. Not every sex worker is underaged or pimped. Some of us freely chose to become adult providers and many of us ENJOY the work. I like my job. I believe in my job
I wonder how many people trapped in 9-5 job can say the same
I provide a valuable service to society. Which is why I'm open about my work. I don't do anything I am ashamed of. I pay taxes. I make people happy. I make the world a better place.
I wonder how many corperate bigwigs can say the same?
I am involved in several online communities. We offer support and encouragement to each other, both as clients and as providers. We buy toys for kids at Christmas. We hold fund raisers when someone's house burns down. We donate portions of our earnings to those in need. We talk politics. We talk health. We get together for yoga and post threads asking for support in quitting smoking (or drinking or whatever). We have potlucks and mixers. We talk about our heartaches and our triumphs.
I wonder how many others have a work environment so supportive?
I could go on and on but I'm more interested in reading what others have to say.
I hope men (and women) who use adult providers will post. More do than you might think.
posted 3 years, 1 month ago
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Word!! Your stream-of-consciousness post brings it all home.
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