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As a 38-year old woman I still am faced with the demand to be nice, agreeable and accomodating quite often. The workplace is where this usually occurs. I am known for being outspoken, a "straightshooter" or "blunt". I don't believe in tiptoeing around a legitimate work issue just because someone may get upset. I worked at a bar for several years and for some time was the only female bartender. I made a suggestion regarding the use of a particular product instead of another and on another occasion was giving a new employee some tips about our system of running things on the night shift. Both times one of the owners, a woman, felt that I was disrespecting her and being "bossy". I eventually had to quit the job because of this person and her treatment of me (she stood 2 inches from my face and yelled at me in front of customers who were waiting to be served, and she was unwilling to allow me to explain to her that I was just trying to get a new employee oriented with the "flow" of the work). The men who work there are permitted to make any suggestions they desire, even voice complaints, and they are listened to and treated legitimately. I know the bar and restaurant industry is notorious for having crazy owners, but I have seen this gender disparity my whole working life in treatment of employees and the credibility that they are given. I have not heard of one of my male coworkers being called "disresectful" for merely suggesting that a certain product be used at work. The standard for is much higher for women. When a man has an idea he is considered intelligent or forward-thinking, we are often considered a bitch. It's like, if you're female, don't speak up.
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