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I am a straight woman. I was unable to have children and my first marriage ended largely as a result. I would love to marry again and am currently in a committed, loving relationship with a man. Fortunately, my boyfriend doesn't want children. Unfortunately, he too was once married and doesn't want to marry again because "marriage is old-fashioned and out of date - a lot of people are choosing not to marry, even when they have children together". I still want to get married. I believe in marriage as a public declaration and celebration of love between adults. My boyfriend is considering a civil union... I mention all of this because a good male friend of mine just married the love of his life: another man. They are hoping to adopt at least 2 children. I think they will be exceptional and very loving parents.
I heard Maggie mention on the program that the purpose of marriage is for a man and woman who love each other to create children. By that rationale, I should never have married to begin with and should never hope to marry again. I can't have children. But I feel that my life as a woman still holds value even though I can't create new people. I think I could still be a wonderful, loving wife with a purpose in this world without making children. I'm so sad that her experience as a single mother didn't help her to better understand that marriage is about so much more than making children. I'm sorry that she didn't have a man to help her raise her child, but I'm more sorry that she can't see that a family is created by loving people - be they two men or two women.
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