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MenWeb is not a reliable source. We cannot take this information as vaild. I don't even know who Mr. Bert H. Hoff is?

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I really don't know where this data is coming from. We must be very careful when quoting or trying to site internet sources. In order to get information that is reliable we must investigate the site. The Center for Disease Control has a very different story than the one described above.

"According to the CDC report, health care costs associated with each incident of IPV were $948 in cases where women were the victims and $387 in cases where men were the victims. The study also found that domestic violence against women results in more emergency room visits and inpatient hospitalizations, including greater use of physician services than domestic violence where men are the victims."

Women are most often (overwhelmingly so) the victims of domestic violence. Not that it doesn't happen to men, because it does. I don't think anyone would negate the fact that domestic violence is unacceptable whether done to a woman or man.

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Its unfortunate, but we are going to be here year after year talking about this. Lets be honest, we are never going to be a violent free society. Violence is going to exist. What we can do is continue year after year talking about it, educating ourselves about it with the hopes of creating a society that really understands it for its complexity and sometimes irrational nature. Domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault and all the social ills that exist today will unfortunately have a place in society forever. The objective here is reduction, understanding, services and options for individuals and families who suffer from these violent victimizations. We still live in a society that just does not understand what domestic violence is all about. To a certain extent its really not their fault. Its complicated, very complicated. The only thing that i can do as a survivor of violence is speak out with the hopes that people will listen. We wont reach everyone but even with your thoughts of frustration (as i perceive it) you are listening. Keep listening. We need your support.

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I am so happy for your family. You must think very highly of your mother. It takes a lot of courage and strength to leave these situations. What a wonderful empowering female figure to have to identify with. Always remember that her strenght is a part of you.

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Jacob,

Could you please cite the researchers who have come up with these 10 major i am gathering contributors to domestic violence?

Policy typically isn't passed without some research based knowledge. I mean no disrespect but we should consider educating ourselves on the topic. I must say I may not be updated, could i have their names?

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Victim precipitation. How excellent. No worries, I would not take what you say as an apology. You afterall have done nothing wrong. It was her. It was her the whole time. I do unlike you apologize. I apologize to those who have to see once again the society that we live in, the individuals that surround us. I apologize to every victim that has to read this. So no worries. I will apologize for you. The ignorance and victim blaming that you have exhibited is what gives fuel to victimizers. We all know that manipulative people exist, no matter the gender. That is not the discussion that is taking place.

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Having the opportunity to voice ones opinion I think is important. What saddens me is the fact that even with the knowledge provided to our community members by outreach programs, governmental agencies, researcher’s findings in the field of victimology and criminology and even from victims retelling their stories we are obviously not doing something right.  All of this madness of

“when I was young…” (When you were young unfortunately domestic violence was considered a family problem, it was no one’s business. To say you never knew anyone who was a perpetrator or victim of domestic violence is, well a little absurd.  I will state that you are not directly to blame for such a thought process, but you are responsible as a citizen of this community and this country to find out more about the ailments that effect it. The question would be: do you have the ability to work beyond the biases and ignorance of your time and move to a more productive state of being, so that change can occur for you and for the generations to come? You are after all our elder; you have the wisdom that comes with having lived and experienced life. That does come with some responsibility.)

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