I am nearly 60 years old, I am Pro-choice, and I have a daughter who is now in her 30s, and I also had 3 abortions. Each abortion was based on the fact that I was already a single mom and the father of the baby, whom was a person I had been having a long-term relationship with (although did not want to marry or live with), did not want it.
Unlike many other women I know, who purposely get pregnant to 'trap' the man, I chose to not saddle anyone with a baby they really did not want.
Yes, I went through depression and guilt, but I knew that in the long run it was best to not bring a child into a world where it was not wanted.
While raising my daughter as a single mom I didn't receive or ask for child support. Certainly it was a struggle, I often worked two jobs, and attended college, but I had made the choice to leave the man, even though he wanted me to marry him. We maintained our friendship and he and his daughter are very close - she is his only child. I worked, I paid for everything, she has grown up healthy and well-adjusted, and, by the way, very independent.
But for those of you who are Pro-life, I have questions. How many of these unwanted babies have you adopted? Do you believe that we need more unwanted children in families that already are living in poverty? Perhaps we should all pay more taxes so these people with unwanted babies who are often physically or mentally challenged due to drugs or alcohol can get more welfare? Do you believe that a baby who is the result of a rape is guaranteed to be loved by it's mother? What kind of life do you think these children would have? Have you donated enough money to any of these potential parents to raise any of these children?
I am a third generation adoptee - my grandmother and my mother were both adopted. My mother died when my brother and I were only 4 and 5 years old, we were adopted. Do not tell me your self-righteous Pro-life drivel unless you also have adopted. And I don't mean adopting children from overseas, I mean giving a good loving home and life to unwanted or disabled babies right here in the US. If you have not adopted, or at least attempted to, it is apparent that you really don't care about these children's lives, but if you have adopted, then I thank you.
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