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I have a single son via IVF.  During my fertility treatment I felt there was a sort of "fertility fence" that divided me from other women and men that had not undergone fertility treatment -- they simply could not understand and just thought we should adopt, and I finally gave up trying to explain my efforts to have a child.  As far as this conversation goes,  I am concerned that this unusual octuplet case and other highly publicized cases will cause unnecessary interference in the relationship between women and their doctors.  I was well educated by the doctors, and was given the choice of transferring all four of my surviving embryos, and I chose to just transfer two, happily resulting in my son's birth.  The downside is that a subsequent transfer of the remaining two embryos (frozen) a couple of years later failed, and sadly I was not able to have a second child and sibling for my son.   I suppose in theory that had I transferred all four fresh embryos in the first IVF, I might have had a multiple birth.  But I am glad that I had just one child so that I could give him all the attention he needed.  Being a parent is very hard, and kids need their parents' full attention.  My son is a happy healthy boy, and I am a happy mom (at last!).

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