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I just had to chime in....

As a 'sex worker', I want to mirror Buffy's sentiments.....and I know her to be an example of integrity, and is cherished by both her clients and sisters in the industry....

That said....re:  sex workers causing difficulties in marriages....

It has been the opposite, from my experience....men are wired differently from women....and I feel comfortable speaking for many of my married clients when I say that the service I provide alleves some of the tension for them...not only sexually.  Some very lovely gentleman have wives with physical/hormonal issues that preclude them from the sort of emotional and/or physical intimacy that a man craves.  I am of absolutely no threat to anyone's marriage.  If I had physical intimacy issues with my husband, I would rather he play safely than resent me because I didn't understand and have him become bitter because I did not understand his sexual wiring.

Yes....my heart BREAKS for those ladies who come into this industry by virtue of life circumstances, dealing with and addiction, or are forced to do so by a person at the pain of physical harm.  Or those who have been harmed or exploited.

Historically, men have sought this service for so long....but we find the historical record almost charming, writing off the fact that things have not changed between the genders in many respects.

I have ranted long enough.  That said, I am embracing this lifestyle as a choice, and I feel priviledged to have a support system, and am glad to be treated with respect by my clients.

The surreptitious nature of the business, however, can proclude those who are not sex workers by choice from seeking or accepting the resources available to do something different.

The continuum will always be there, unfortunately.

Helena

PS...Politicalvixen....your interest and advisement of the photography exhibit you mentioned are welcomed by me personally.

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