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While I adore Scott Simon, I'm sorry you ended the hour with his perspective. Scott is very positive, but very "young" to the adoption story. His perspective is that of youthful idealism. His children are young and he has not, and may never experience the more difficult and heartbreaking aspects of adoption. But those heartbreaking stories are out there in spades.
He stated more that once, "Adoption is not a trauma". That statement is akin to a man saying childbirth is not painful. Adoption is a trauma, for both the infant who is separated from his/her birthmother, and the birthmother, who must relinquish her child - often a decision made under extreme duress.
As an adoptee I will say, unequivocally, that the trauma experienced at birth, and the subsequent feelings of always being on the outside, have colored my self-image and shaped my relationships in monumental ways.
I suggest Scott read, THE PRIMAL WOUND, by Nancy Verrier.
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