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"Giving birth to a child does not turn a woman into a mother any more than the donation of a sperm turns a man into a father."

You've got to be kidding...Your comment takes a great deal away from mothers because it denies the physiological and emotional act of growing and bearing a child, something sperm donation does not even come close to. The role that has been traditionally linked to mothers is because of this act, one that men are not physiologically capable of (even the guy (?) in Bend).

My husband and I are the parents of three beautiful children. He has been present and integrally involved in their lives since they were in utero. We share parental joys and responsibilities pretty evenly, and he has an amazing bond with our kids. I have nothing but absolute respect for him and his role in our lives, even though we don't always see eye-to-eye on parenting choices. Our kids benefit from having two very involved parents and are all the better for our differing but cooperative parenting approaches.

And HE certainly respects that, although he provided the fertilization, my body developed, carried, and bore those lives. That respect, to me, is affirmation of our relationship as parents and as two people who are deeply in love.

posted 4 years, 11 months ago
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