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Ok so you understand some of what I was saying.  But you are missing my main point.  For further clarification you should ask your sister, wife, or female friend, how they would feel about taking a shower with a guy who has expressed amorous intentions toward them.
  If I had not had to share what is considered intimate conditions (showers) with this man I would not have had any more difficulty with it than, as you mentioned, a women would if I had hit on her. 
    So all I am saying is either separate showers or everyone shares one shower.  It just seems fair that if I am being looked at I should be able to

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Ok so I am the guy you are talking about.  except for a difference.   One while in the navy I was hit on by another man.  Not comfortable.  It did change the working relations of the shop and made me really uncomfortable when it came time to take a shower after PT.   On one of the ships I served on there was a guy who would grab guys when they were sleeping.

The truth of the matter is that men are for the most part predators and most of us men know that to some extent or another.  The alphas do not mind so much as they are not challenged but those of us that are lower on that scale!  Well we get a little scared.

Now I would be all for it if they had "separate but equal quarters and showers"  or if they would just make it so that every thing was unisex.  That way I can be looking at what I like and just keep living in my own little fantasy world believing that the other guy with a hard on is looking at the same thing I am.

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