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I was sexually molested from the ages of aboout 7-9. Around 9 I told my mom about the abuse and she confronted my stepfather. The abuse stopped and my parents bitterly divorced. My family advised her to not press charges because it would be painful for me to recall the abuse on the stand. Instead, my mother took me to local family doctor who explained to her I had repressed the memory of the abuse. He told her it was best I had forgotten and to move on with our lives. As an adult I began having extreme anxiety and began therapy. I realized my silence about the abuse was coming back to haunt me. I also revealed as an adult that my stepfather's adult son had also abused me. During the same time, my brother's his first child was born. My stepfather re-entered my brother's life and began visting more often.
Finally, when my niece was 3 I decided to report my childhood sexual abuse to the local Sheriff’s Office. I was 25 at the time. My mother recently revealed she has spoken with my stepfather's ex wife right after my abuse. She told my mother he has abused her two step daughters and their fraternal twins. She explained she caught hm in the act, but instead of reporting it the police she decided to leave him. My mother also revealed that my stepbrother now grown had recently been caught abusing his own daughter. My stepfather at the time worked for a local high school as a janitor in close proximity to children the school completely unaware of his past. I explained all this in detail to the Sheriff's Office they explained to me there was nothing I could do it was past the statue of limitations. I was so humiliated they let me cry and recall my abuse what my mother had told me and then said sorry we can't help you. When I think about it now, it makes me sick to my stomach. I would have wanted to press charges and if the law were to be repealed I will.
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