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on Can You Sell a Human Egg?
Hi Dave - Thanks for checking into this, I too was researching this morning as well. Great minds think alike:)
Warmly,
Marna Gatlin
Parents Via Egg Donation
posted 1 year, 11 months ago
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Hi Kamanu -
Sperm donors and egg donors who donate their sperm and oocytes complete paper work that states they are not responsible for any child born from their genetics. The recipient parents also sign paper work stating they are responsible for any and all children born from whatever they are receiving -- sperm or eggs.
It's all about the intent. Recipient parents are intending and mindfully creating life whereas a woman and a man who meet and have casual sex aren't.
posted 1 year, 11 months ago
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Dmon13
Adoption is not for everyone. I think that this is a personal choice and I would have to have the government step in like they did in China and limit individuals in how they have their children or how many.
posted 1 year, 11 months ago
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Tom - I think there is a huge difference between a drug deal and an egg donor #1. #2 I think it probably sounds nicer to say egg donation rather than sell eggs or broker eggs. Compensation I think is warranted as these girls go through a lot to help we mom's out.
posted 1 year, 11 months ago
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Hi Mary -
I am a mother vie egg donation. I carried my child, my name is on the birth certificate because I am the birth mother. The egg donor is not the mother. Egg donors don't do this to become mothers. They do it to help women like myself who are infertile.
What is not accurate to you?
You ask a good question about the sibling issue. I asked about that and that's why there are limits on egg donation. 6 times in one large metropolitan area.
This is why our children need to know how they were created and their origins. For instance my child knows his story, and when he begins to date I think we will be more aware. The other part of it is that years ago we had blood tests for std's and then everyone tests for HIV. I think it's natural for folks to have DNA tests which are simple. I don't think it's going to be a huge issue personally.
posted 1 year, 11 months ago
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Missrose! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for egg donors like you. You have no idea how grateful I am, if it weren't for women like yourself I wouldn't have my child. I love him so much I sometimes forget to breathe!:)
posted 1 year, 11 months ago
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I find it really odd with all of the other way more important things going on in the world today - (The continuing issues in the Middle East, the poor economy in the United States, the incredibly high unemployment rate, and last but not least the devestating oil spill in the gulf of Mexico (5,000 barrels per day (bpd) (210,000 gallons/795,000 litres) that's causing catestrophic damage, just for starters.) That egg donation is being targeted as something worthy to talk about.
My story is very simple -- My husband and I really wanted to have a child together. I'd already undergone many many losses. I was devestated. Adoption which is an incredibly personal choice wasn't something we both wanted to embark upon. When we learned about egg donation we for the first time felt a small shimmer of hope.
Was our child a designer baby? I hardly think so. We mindfully and deliberately brought him into the world. Because I was no longer using my genetics I of course saw this as an opportunity to select an egg donor who was incredibly healthy that didn't have the same kinds of medical issues that my side of the family suffered from. And I don't apologize for that. My only vanity if you can call it that was feeling strongly about wanting someone who was really tall. Why? I am really short and I have always hated being short. I didn't see anything wrong with wanting a tall child who I felt might have better opportunities being tall:)
When couples select the people they want to have children with don't they select the one that they feel they would like to bring children into the world with? Don't they have specific criteria? There is nothing wrong with that.
The whole egg donor community is comprised of men and women who really want to become parents. There's nothing creepy about egg donation -- it's just a different way of creating or building a family.
My hope is that the world can smile upon us and our children and let us create our families and live or lives in peace.
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posted 3 years, 3 months ago
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Hi Caroline -- I'd be really interested in learning more about acupuncture and the benefits regarding infertility. I wonder if acupuncture can help with things like Diminshed Ovarian Reserve, Premature Ovarian Failure, or PCOS?
I know that acupuncture is advocated as a treatment during IVF cycles, focusing especially before, and after the transfer of embryos.
posted 3 years, 3 months ago
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Hi Charlo -
I was the woman on Think Out Loud who said to my husband "If this doesn't work I want you to get me a dog." I'd like to clarify what I said -- I wasn't equating or comparing adoption to owning a dog.
You have to understand this was my tenth try at having a baby. I wanted to become a mother in the worst way -- to anything at that point. My comment to my husband was in exasperation at the enormity of this last cycle not working. And so when I made my comment to my husband I meant just that. If this technology wasn't going to work for us then I'd become the mom of many many dogs.
In regards to adoption, I think it's a beautiful thing, I think it's one of the most unselfish, amazing, and loving things anyone can do. However, it's a very personal decision like choosing to carry a child to term, and birthing. There are many many women in this world who don't feel compelled to carry a child as I do. But for me it was very important to carry a pregnancy to term, regardless of it was carrying my partners genetics or not.
I guess I don't understand what you mean by telling me that I am not reproducing for a reason. My reason for wanting a child is to be a parent, and a mother. I also felt strongly I wanted to have a child with my husband who I love very much. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
posted 3 years, 3 months ago
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Hi Mike -
I hear what you are saying -- however, my concern is for those of us who resort to the use of egg donors or sperm donors to create our families banning compensation is going to decrease the egg donor and sperm donor pool greatly.
As far as ending the practice of granting egg donors and sperm donors anonimity -- in the US you can't make anyone meet anyone. And so requiring a mandatory registry for egg donors or sperm donors to be eligible to donate isn't making much sense to me because who's to say they aren't going to move, change their phone numbers, or what have you after they register. Who's going to be the watchdog to make sure they keep up with their information?
I think a voluntary registry is a great thing -- we have lots of those already in place.
Most egg donors and most sperm donors don't give a second though to the tissue they donated. And really that's what an egg and a sperm are -- tissue. And I can tell you from experience they don't sign up for this to known as fathers or mothers. That's our job as parents.
There is no easy answer.
I have a son via egg donation and I am so thankful, and happy we went that route -- he's amazing.
posted 3 years, 3 months ago
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I have always felt that there needs to be more offered in the way of counseling, or support regarding those women who go through IVF.
Once a woman becomes pregnant through IVF and is released to from her RE to her OB, she then becomes a regular pregnant woman in the OB practice of her choice.
Not all women who go through IVF have issues with birth or breastfeeding, but I think on a whole there needs to be more support during pregnancy and after. Post Partum Depression is wicked.
posted 3 years, 3 months ago
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The US needs to pay for IVF treatment like the UK does for it's citizens. In the US less than 20 states provide any sort of IVF insurance for patients, and infertility is classified as a disease like Cancer, Diabetes, Cardio Vascular disease, and Alcoholism.
To take this a step further, then perhaps we need to regulate cigarrettes, sugar, bacon, sausage, butter, and alcohol. All of which are contributors to cancer, diabetes, cardio vascular disease, and alcoholism.
Do you see how much of a slippery slope this can be?
Where do we draw the line?
posted 3 years, 3 months ago
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I think that this is really a slippery slope because I don't want legislatures to tell me what I can do or not do to my own body reproductivley.
You are right -- it'sa thorny issue that no one wants to touch and there is no easy answer.
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