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all of the radio comments were great so far, but I think it is important for people to remember that no matter what "statistics" say is the most important or likely scenariio, ALL of the education is important. My sister and I were sexually abused by my dad's best friend (the husband of my mom's best friend and parent to my best friend). Also, I was approached by a stranger at the park who exposed himself to me.
It is important to educate BOTH parents and kids, and I think the most important thing to teach kids is to trust themselves--their intuition--and if anyone asks them to do something (to themselves or someone else) that makes them uncomfortable, they should not do it, AND they should tell someone. AS a kid, I saw that the other adults didn't say anything when the abuser did something marginally innappropriate eventhough, for me, it felt very uncomfortable. I learned to not trust myself. Also, he had a keen eye for opportunities to take it to the next level when we were alone. THat is when my own intuition would have helped.
For me, I taught my daughter from age 4 or 5 to not participate in anything that she's not comfortable with. I included games at school or other things as well. We used to play a team relay in an after school program where we had to run to the other end of a room, grab something from a bag and eat it. Sometimes it would be something gross like baby food. I dont like these games because it teaches kids to do something to themselves that they don't want to do because other people are depending on them. this is why I don't like the show FEAR FACTOR. It's about doing something you don't want to--something to your body-- because other people want you to do it.
Trusting yourself when someone makes you fell uncomfortable is the MOST important thing.
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