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Abuse is a powerful tool used by people to gain advantage in potential custody battle.
I am a victim of false accusation. It took 3 years of legal battles, and over $50,000 legal fees to get kids back (to a point of shared custody and equal time with kids).
On the date of accusation, my ex-wife had her friend call 911.
Despite witness from neighbor, police who responded said on the radio "Just some arguments and there is nothing physical...", and my ex-wife later apology in formal legal documents saying basically she made the Restraing Order up, when no abuse took place... There is no way to clear my name. (The fact a RO was filed against me and dismissed is stuck forever.)
Whenever people hear or finds out "Oh, you had a RO against you...", it takes a lot of explaination on my part, and not everyone is willing to listen. For each professional in the 3 year custody battle, I had to show the evidence before they each agreed that no abuse took place, yet none of them seems to care "What is her motive for making this up?" I feel like guilt until proven in innocent.
The threashold for accusing someone of "abuse" is so low, and the system encourages using such accusations to gain advantages in potential custody battle involving two emtionally charged divorce couple.
As a society, what protection exists for the falsely accused (of such domestic relationship issues)? How are all these legal battles over custody productive to the economy as a whole? (Especially at a time when many people cannot find jobs.)
posted 3 years, 4 months ago
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