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The Biggest Secret. We discuss addiction, crime, death, suicide and other life problems. The one that doesn't get discussed is parents with adult children who no longer have any communication with them. I am in this situation.
It was 3 years from last Christmas since I have had any communication with my daughter. She will not disclose the reason she cut me from her life and is not open to any contact, such as meeting at a councilor of her choosing once a month. She still talks to the others in my family but not me. After much therapy, I have grieved for the loss of this precious daughter in my life and accept the boundary she has set. At the same time, without expecting anything in return or any change in the relationship, I occasionally send her cards, email or a small gift. This is my way of saying I will always love her and she has not been forgotten.
I have learned from this experience and sharing my pain that there are many other adults with this same grief and hope that one day the relationship will be healed. But, it is very difficult to share this with others in our life because society tends to make us think that we must have been bad parents and we don't want others to learn this. It is a secret.
I want to start a support group here in McMinnville, but I don't know how. Efforts to contact people who might help have mostly been met with rejection. When I heard your invitation this morning to make suggestions for a show, I knew I needed to write to you. Thanks for any help you might give me in starting a group.
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