I have recent, personal experience with the current rape law.
My son was charged with first degree rape after having drunken sex with a stranger at a high school party. Her friends walked in on the activity and she became very distraught, not because of any kind of assault, but because of embarassment. Her friends, however, did not know my son and assumed something bad was happening.
The young woman stayed at the party for several hours after having sex. Several female friends of my son, who did not know the young woman, talked with her afterward. She described feeling ashamed and dirty.
When she arrived home, very late and very drunk, her mother was furious. Her friends then related the story of the supposed sexual assault, and suddenly the mother had a very different attitude. She took her daughter to the hospital and had a rape kit done. Her daughter also claimed to having had only a very small amount of alcohol, so the mother concluded that her daughter was drugged.
Several months later, my son was arrested and jailed, charged with first degree rape, and bail was set at $250,000. We spent all of our savings on the legal defense. You might be surprised how much a lawyer charges to investigate a serious crime like first degree rape. The bill came to $125,000.
But after much work and more than a year, the truth (or should I say the lies) came out, and the rape charges were dropped. But the DA could not let it go and my son spent 90 days in jail and will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
You cannot imagine the trauma and pain this has caused my son.
The financial ruin is bad, but the emotional toll is much higher. Everything in society that is there to protect us, the police, the prosecutors, the judges, the jails... they are now the enemy. They have no interest in protecting the person charged with a sex crime. Their only interest is to see you put away.
The young woman never claimed to be forced or threatened or in any way raped in the way you and I would think of it. She only claimed that she was not able to consent because of her intoxication.
This new law will be a nightmare for many, many innocent families.
posted 3 years, 11 months ago
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