I've long stopped participating in pseudo rituals of the Thanksgiving through New Years stretch. Got too stressed out and irritated by forcing myself to go through the motions concealed by my fake smile.
I stopped stressing and feeling guilty about not acquiring gifts for everyone, especially those I don't care for. I feel better.
I'm giving up feeling guilty for myriad shortcomings or things gone wrong yesterday. I feel better yet.
Compassion, sensitivity, caring - the better angels of human nature - require lifelong commitment. Enlightenment requires humans to understand and accept the causes of suffering they experience and create. Once suffering is understood, negative behavior can be improved.
I love Oregon's Winter weather. It's too mild and doesn't rain enough but oh well. It's not gloomy enough. I prefer Transylvania funk. Moss and lichens growing off vampire fangs if you'll allow. I want wolves howling in the fog of Macleay Park and hair standing on end because I think I see things shuffling in shadows. I want those who complain about Oregon's weather to leave. Do yourselves a favor and make more room and silence for those of us who like it here.
Why let weather befoul your mood? You control how you feel and behave if you're emotionally and spiritually healthy.
What's there to be glum about? You're alive! Count your blessings. Every day people are randomly killed by the actions of blind super powers and religious extremists of all persuasions. How did we get here? Is this where we want to be? When will we exchange negative behavior for positive?
Distance yourself from twitchy, needy, damaged humans who aren't striving to overcome their ennui. You can't avoid negativity entirely but it is possible to wear a body condom of compassion and patience that provides a modicum of protection from the season's human-perpetuated blahs.
Humans going through motions are fearful that they'll no longer belong to the herd because they choose a different path than the accepted norm. Jump off the rat wheel. There's plenty of room here in Clarityville, but be warned, the weather in Clarityville is the same as it is in Oregon.
Why do things for humans you don't give a crap about and vice versa? Why go to a job you hate? Life is too short to suffer 24/7/365 isn't it? You think humans behaving negatively are going to change if you keep working on them? Some will improve and others will not. Invest your time in real friendships and let the rest go. Know the difference between friendship and acquaintances.
Hang with those whose opinions you respect and remove yourself from those who've become toxic super sites.
There are many excellent ways to eliminate seasonal blahs and blues. Get off your ass and motivate yourself. Self help books have not been helpful. Either fix yourself, let friends help fix you, or remain broken. And so it goes....
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