I’ve heard a lot of people say how grateful they are for their children, but I could never truly appreciate this until our daughter was born. It’s the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced, literally beyond my ability to adequately express. And I can hardly believe we get to bring another child into the world — appropriately, right around Thanksgiving day.
Gratitude appears to be the quintessential positive trait… Much of human life (and seemingly the lives of other species) is about giving, receiving, and repaying benefits. Gratitude is an essential emotional and motivational link in this dynamic cycle of reciprocity. Without memory of having benefited from others, the motive to do good — to be generous, compassionate and forgiving — would be considerably diminished. As a famous sociologist once stated, gratitude is the moral memory of mankind.
What are you grateful for? What difference have these people — or objects or experiences — made in your life? Do you have a gratitude practice? Is it related to your religious or spiritual tradition? Do you do specific things to encourage gratitude or appreciation in your children? If so, why is raising a child with gratitude important? What have you found most helpful?
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- Lynne Smouse Lopez: Pastor at Ainsworth United Church of Christ
- Will Deming: Chair of the Department of Theology at the University of Portland
- Philip Watkins: Gratitude researcher, professor at Eastern Washington University
- Christine Carter: Sociologist, blogger and happiness expert at the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley