The room was lit low like a cocktail bar. Games and conversation cards were spread across tables. But unlike a typical happy hour, the dozens of people present were there for more than food and drinks.
On March 5, dozens of Oregonians — from 20-somethings to seniors — packed an event space at Revolution Hall in Portland to hear a panel conversation about modern dating.
Guests socialize over food and drink in an event space at Revolution Hall in Portland, Ore., March 5, 2026. The venue hosted OPB's "Think Out Loud" for a live taping of a conversation about the complexities of modern dating.
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“Dating, Decoded” was a live taping of OPB’s “Think Out Loud,” featuring a panel of three guests: Sarah Ruby, the creator of Dating Profile Tune-Ups, Playdates and Kissing Booth Social Club; Taylor Kravitz, a licensed marriage and family therapist; and Margaret Bagan, the panel’s resident dating single.
The conversation — not only between the panelists, but with the audience — was dedicated to exploring the murkiness of today’s dating scene.
Bagan kicked off the conversation by reflecting on her experience finding a long-term partner on dating apps, a topic that would end up drawing the most laughs, gasps and cheers.
Bagan, 60, said she had been looking for a relationship for a while, but online dating has forced her to think more carefully about the people she dates.
“That’s where it kind of gets tricky, because it’s easy to just go meet someone, but when I’m looking at online dating, which is what I’m doing now, I’m looking at somebody long term,” Bagan said. “So I’m really more critical [now] than I would have been probably in my 20s.”
(From right to left) Sarah Ruby, the creator of Dating Profile Tune-Ups, Playdates and Kissing Booth Social Club; Taylor Kravitz, a licensed marriage and family therapist; and Margaret Bagan, the panel’s resident dating single at Revolution Hall in Portland, Ore., March 5, 2026. "Dating, Decoded" was a live taping of a panel conversation about dating, featuring stories and questions from the audience.
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Some audience members agreed that having that critical eye, or ear, is hugely important when dating online.
“I think [it’s] the level of comfort that I feel with that person, how easily we exchange rhetoric, how easy it is to talk back and forth,” Patrick Patterson, a member of the audience, said.
Others stressed the importance of simply trusting your instincts, especially when meeting someone in-person for the first time. But that can be hard when not everyone is honest on their dating-app profiles.
Ruby said some people are intentionally dishonest, while others struggle to portray themselves fully.
“There’s like lying about your age — that’s one thing, obviously,” Ruby said. “But someone putting a version of themselves out and then showing up and being like, ‘That’s not who you are,’ — they might just not have any idea who they are.”
Kravitz, the panel’s licensed therapist, said that struggle might speak more to people feeling pressure to perform.
“I think because so much dating happens on apps right now, there’s like this tiny moment that you have an opportunity to present yourself to folks,” Kravitz said. “And I think for some that’s a little easier, but for others, it can feel like a lot of pressure to try to, like, sell yourself.”
(From left to right) "Think Out Loud" host Dave Miller, Margaret Bagan, Taylor Kravitz and Sarah hold a conversation about dating for a live taping of "Think Out Loud," at Revolution Hall in Portland, Ore., March 5, 2026. Panelists answered questions and responded to stories from audience members throughout the event.
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Both panelists and audience members offered advice for online dating, centering on the importance of being authentic and owning your hobbies and interests.
Several others said they’ve taken a different approach: getting off dating apps entirely.
The audience heard stories of people meeting at libraries, bars and dog parks — a change from the endless swipe carousels of Tinder and the like.
Still, people in the relationship market face a host of other complexities, such as dating while experiencing hardship or finding partners who share the same priorities.
“Our society tells us, ‘This is what love should look like. This is what commitment should look like. This is how you should navigate freedom and sexual connection,’” Kravitz said. “I think it’s helpful to examine: What are my values, what do these things mean to me? Because if we do that, we can give more clarity to potential partners.”
The event was bookended by mingling opportunities for people who were single or dating-curious.
One participant, Eryn Bizar, said she came to the event to find her “forever adventure partner,” as well as some tips for how to navigate the tricky world of dating.
“In general, it’s hard to meet people if you’re not putting yourself out there. And if you’re doing it in a real, authentic, human-to-human way, I feel like there’s merit there, there’s value there,” Bizar said. “There’s always wonderful things to learn from others even if it’s not finding your ultimate romantic partner in that moment.”
Dozens of guests filled the event space at Revolution Hall in Portland, Ore. for a live "Think Out Loud" conversation about dating. The show was bookended by opportunities for attendees to mingle.
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And some may have even found dates.
Attendee Alex Ferris, during the show, spoke in defense of men using pictures of themselves fishing in their dating app bios — a stance not everyone agreed with. Tiffany Stevenson, another attendee, came to his defense.
In an interview after the show, a “Think Out Loud” producer asked Ferris, who was talking with Stevenson, if he’d take her fishing.
“I would totally take her fishing,” he said.
“Yeah, I’ll go fishing,” she said.
Click play to listen to the full “Dating Decoded” conversation on “Think Out Loud”:
